The Great Podcast Giveaway

Posted: February 15, 2015 by Mo in Uncategorized

Well hello there! Long time no see! New here? Recent listener or old? Big news, so read on!

**Disclaimer: This post was written with the consent of only one other person, though I believe is respectful to other people’s ownership of the Bitter Infertiles podcast. I have made every effort to do so.

Two and a half years ago, in an attempt to find some healing, I had an idea. That idea later became a podcast. It was a podcast that originally started with four hosts, then down to three, then down to none.

There were a lot of reasons we stopped doing it. Some would say it was “drama” because there was a backlash that the three remaining hosts were all pregnant. Some would say there was “drama” behind the scenes.

But that’s not the truth. Yes, there was backlash. There was some drama behind the scenes. But I think most of you know me well enough to know I can deal with backlash and I thrive on drama.

That’s not why we shut down. Not really.

We shut down because I, being the primary driving force behind it, was very down. It was February. I was just heading into bed rest and dealing with Nadav’s first birthday. I was struggling. I couldn’t keep it going because I just couldn’t find the energy.

Then other stuff happened. But we won’t go into that.

A couple of months ago, me and one of the other hosts had a lovely discussion about possibly passing the torch. The podcast was important to us. It was important to a lot of people. It should have a chance to thrive.

We still hadn’t figured out the semantics of how to pass on the torch without hurting feelings. Because we knew it didn’t just belong to the two of us. It was a discussion. We were getting there.

Then another host decided to beat us to the punch without thinking about others’ feelings or discussing it with us. Which inevitably has forced our hand.

Notice I’m not naming names. If you know, you know. That’s fine.

I am not writing this to start a flame war. Because the truth is the person who “forced our hand” had a darn good idea, despite the very bad way she chose to go about sharing it. The past is the past. I have bigger and more productive things to do. And I don’t want this amazing thing, which a lot of people worked very hard to make happen, to be marred with bitterness and BS.

Here’s the thing: This podcast was and is bigger than egos. Bigger than passive aggressive BS. Bigger than drama. It meant a lot to a lot of people It meant a lot to me and the other hosts.

So after discussing it at length with one of the hosts, I am passing the torch, because I know I am no longer built to hold it.

I am passing it on with fairness and love of what it was, what it can be, and the good it has done.

Here’s how it’s going to work:

If you want to take up the Bitter Infertiles brand, complete with iTunes approval, blog and gmail access, podcast hosting service password, EVERYTHING, send me an email and tell me why you want it and what you’d like to do with it.

I will forward your email to ALL FOUR ORIGINAL HOSTS of the podcast. Because we all deserve a say. There will not be drama, we will vote on the merit of the person who wants it. Nothing more.

When a consensus is reached – and it will be reached because I don’t intend on making any of this personal –  the new owner will be announced on this blog and on my personal blog, and will be handed the keys to the kingdom.

A few things to keep in mind:

1) Running a podcast costs money, and the more popular it gets, the more it costs because of hosting and streaming costs. At its peak, I was spending $300 dollars a month to keep the podcast running. You can try to crowdfund it, but whatever you do, you need to find a way to fund it.

2) This will take a lot of time out of your week. I spent an average of 5 hours a week planning, answering emails, and booking guests, 2 hours recording, then anywhere between 5-10 hours editing the podcast every week.

3) Running it requires a minimal knowledge of audio editing and exporting.

4) This podcast meant a lot to a lot of people. Please be willing to take my baby and nurture it for the long haul. I can promise you the rewards are worth the hard work.

When something is created, all of its creators deserve credit and a say. This is the way to do it. I want this podcast to live on. I can’t keep it going myself.

Though I hope whoever takes it over will let me and the rest of the girls drop by for a visit every once in a while.

So… Who’s up? Feel free to share this post with anyone who you think would be a good fit.

For anyone still here, thanks for sticking around, and as always – thanks for listening.

Love,

Mo

Ok Maybe a Bit Longer

Posted: February 13, 2013 by Mo in Uncategorized
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Hey everybody,

So a week off isn’t really going to cut it. The truth is a week from now is the one year anniversary of losing my son, and at the same time I’m having the cerclage done and beginning bed rest.

This combination does not a happy Mo make. And since I’m the one who edits these things and puts them online – I’ve gotta take a sanity break. We’ll be back though. We promise. It just may take a little longer than expected.

See you on the flip side!

Some Notes

Posted: February 11, 2013 by Mo in Uncategorized

Hi All!

Alas, a combination of Nemo-phobia, scheduling issues, and our own procrastination means that there will be no new episode this week.

But don’t think we don’t have stuff for you to do!

First thing’s first: We have a hotline! You can call and leave us a message and we’ll play your messages on the podcast! Yes, we’re psyched, hence the exclamation points!

Our number (US local) is:

(530) 424-8837 or – (530) 4BITTER

How. Awesome. Is. That?!?!

For reals you guys. Shelley is the one who pulled that off. She oozes awesome sauce.

Last but certainly not least: We’re looking for guests! Please email us if you are any of the following:

1) Recently applied for/received grant funding for fertility treatments

2) Found another creative/little known way to fund your fertility treatments

3) Are suffering from secondary infertility and are deep in the process: Either given up on a second child after failed ART, or toward the end of a treatment cycle, or just had a second child after a long battle (preferably one that included at least one IVF cycle), or in the process of adoption to complete your family after secondary infertility.

4) In a same-sex relationship and currently pursuing ART

5) Currently pursuing or resolved by pursuing surrogacy

So! Do you fit any of those topics? Want to come be a part of the ranty fun? Email us!

See you guys with a new episode next week!

Episode 20!

Posted: February 5, 2013 by Mo in Uncategorized
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Wherein we discuss living child – free – and how to make sure you are more than the sum of your lady parts.

Get it here or on iTunes!

Episode resources:

Living Child-free

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/06/10/health/10pati.html?_r=1&

http://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2008/06/10/health/healthguide/TE_INFERTILITY_CLIPS.html

http://www.bloggersforhope.com/2012/05/how-infertility-redefines-hopeful.html

http://www.ladiesinwaitingbookclub.com/2011/03/silent-sorority-infertility-amnesia-ask.html

http://jjiraffe.wordpress.com/2012/04/10/faces-of-adoptionlossinfertility-the-memory-keeper/

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/complete-without-kids/201108/peek-childfree-living

http://www.resolve.org/family-building-options/living_childfree/

Pamela’s blog

http://blog.silentsorority.com/

Loribeth’s blog

http://theroadlesstravelledlb.blogspot.com/

Episode 19!

Posted: January 29, 2013 by Mo in Uncategorized
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Infertility 102:

Wherein we discuss more of the basics – peeing on all the things, early pregnancy monitoring, blood tests, and more.

Get it here or on iTunes!

Episode resources:

HPTs/OPKs:

Pee On A Stick: http://www.peeonastick.com/hpts.html

Information on bHCG:

http://www.americanpregnancy.org/duringpregnancy/hcglevels.html

Chemical pregnancy/Ectopic

http://miscarriage.about.com/od/onetimemiscarriages/p/chemicalpreg.htm

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0001897/

http://www.webmd.com/baby/guide/pregnancy-ectopic-pregnancy

Episode 18!

Posted: January 22, 2013 by Mo in Uncategorized
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Infertility and divorce.

Wherein we discuss how to avoid the worst-case-scenario when it comes to your relationship.

Get it here or on iTunes!

Episode Resources:

 

CDGs blog: http://adventuresininfertilityland.blogspot.com/

 

Resources from RESOLVE:

http://www.resolve.org/support-and-services/you-and-your-partner/disagreements.html

http://www.resolve.org/support-and-services/Managing-Infertility-Stress/when-to-seek-help.html

http://www.resolve.org/support-and-services/you-and-your-partner/becoming-a-couple-again.html

http://www.resolve.org/support-and-services/you-and-your-partner/are-we-ever-going-to-have-a-family.html

 

Finding help:

http://www.resolve.org/support-and-services/Managing-Infertility-Stress/

http://www.resolve.org/resources/professional-services/mental-health-list.html

 

Episode 17!

Posted: January 8, 2013 by Mo in Uncategorized
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Wherein we discuss the Russian adoption ban, and, eh hem, yeah… We talk about Kimye’s spawn.

Get it here or on iTunes!

 

Episode Resources:

Russian Adoption Ban:

http://pailbloggers.com/2013/01/02/guest-post-missohkay-on-russia-banning-international-adoptions/

http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/opinion/ct-oped-0103-russia-20130103,0,6215503.story

http://www.npr.org/2012/08/07/157844554/would-be-parents-wait-as-foreign-adoptions-plunge

http://www.npr.org/2012/12/29/168248979/u-s-deeply-regrets-russias-adoption-ban

 

International Adoption:

http://missohkay.wordpress.com/

http://mytwolines.blogspot.com/

http://fromif2when.blogspot.com/

 

Missohkay’s adoption posts:

http://missohkay.wordpress.com/adoption/